Here’s the challenge: in order to stop divorce, both parties have to be willing to give the relationship another try. Unfortunately, this isn’t always possible. However, a divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage — before it’s filed or even as late as just before the final paperwork. So that presents the relationship with many opportunities to recover.
No matter when it happens in the process, however, you must both agree before you can stop a divorce. Intuitively, you already know this. You know that in order to save your relationship and stop your divorce, you have to convince your spouse to join you in your desire to stop it.
The best way to do this is not to beg or plead. When you beg to get back together, your spouse is far more likely to resist. Instead, it’s to your advantage to behave pleasantly, without trying to force your will on your spouse. If and when your spouse is open for discussion, be honest. Explain that you really want to avoid the divorce and rebuild the relationship. Explain this calmly and evenly, without hysterics, without accusations, and your chances for success will be much improved.
