When You’re Moving On – The Break Up Is Over

Sometimes moving on (through a break up, a loss or another major change) can be difficult. It’s rarely easy unless you’re so glad to get out of a situation that you can’t wait to make a change and move on. A break up disrupts your entire life. It can seem that everything around you reminds you of your ex. And even your social circle can be difficult when you have a number of mutual friends.

In fact, family and friends are often one of the biggest hurdles you face when you’re ready to move on from a relationship. You’ll have to endure questions about what happened to your ex, and be expected to explain the reasons behind the breakup. Broken relationships affect everyone around an ex-couple.

It won’t satisfy anyone when you try to gloss over the situation with non-responsive remarks, such as, “Sorry, we’re each moving on, the break up is over and that’s that.”

So be honest about the situation. Help your family and friends make the transition with you when you’ve finally come to a point where you know there’s little hope left.

More Relationship Quotes

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
- Oprah Winfrey

“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.”
– Mark Twain

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is … suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.”
- Gillian Anderson

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
– Aristotle

“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”
– Helen Keller

“Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl – no superior alternative has yet been found.”
– Winston Churchill

“Our greatest joy – and our greatest pain – comes in our relationships with others.”
- Stephen R. Covey

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula LeGuin

“Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it’s really no fun lying to ‘em anymore.”
- Norm from Cheers

Relationship Quotes

We’re always so serious on this site. I thought I’d share some relationship quotes with you over the next couple of posts, just to lighten things up a bit. I hope you enjoy these.

“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.”
- Flavia Weedn

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”
- Anthony Robbins

“To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person.”
– Eric Fromm

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.”
– Kahlin Gibran

“The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that’s why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they’ve really done is they’ve shifted their relationship with time.”
– Caroline Myss

“You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.”
- Keith Sweat

One More Tip On How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

As odd as it might sound, learning to emotionally and mentally distance yourself from your ex can actually help you in the long run. While this may strike you as counterproductive at first, especially if you’re eager to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back, it allows you to release much of the stress associated with the breakup.

You’ll be able to relax more, and so will he.

The strain will disappear from your conversations together.

You’ll both be able to communicate better, without the accusations, with a single mindedness on finding a solution. With a little patience and civility, most breakups can be overcome.

Another Tip On How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Last time, we talked about four vital questions you need to ask yourself. This time we’re going to talk about something that can a little more challenging: you need to quit worrying about you’re being perceived.

It really doesn’t matter if people think you’re funny or serious, fat or thin, stupid or intelligent. Let go of your concern about what others are thinking. It’s far more important to simply be yourself. No pretenses. No trying to impress. Simply let yourself relax into who you are.

This will not only make life more enjoyable, it will have the people around you loving the real you and not someone you’re trying to pretend to be.  Your ex boyfriend will be reminded of what he saw in you in the first place. Very powerful.

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Instead of Driving Him Away

It’s possible to get your ex boyfriend back if you have a basic understanding of what to do and you take the right steps.

First, there are four vital questions you must ask yourself:

1 - Is the issue that caused the breakup actually important?
2 - Is it appropriate to argue about this issue now that you’ve broken up?
3 - Is winning the argument worthwhile or does it make more sense to let it go?
4 - Was the issue worth arguing about in the first place?

If you answer no to any of these questions, then stop pressing the issue and let it go. Many break ups can be prevented or quickly rekindled if only a contentious issue is settled. Often, arguments leading to a breakup are completely unnecessary.

What Should I Do To Get My Ex Back?

It’s not easy to break up with someone you love. There are painful emotions. Sadness. Depression. Hurt. Loneliness.

And if you believe there’s even a chance of dulling the pain, you might find yourself asking, “What should I do to get my ex back?”

While there are a number of things you can do, one of the first suggestions I’d make is this: don’t play games. You might be able to make yourself feel better for awhile if your ex hurts the way you do or your ex is jealous the way you are, but it won’t last. Sooner or later it will catch up with you and you’ll feel sullied by your behavior.

Along the same lines: don’t be mean. When we feel hurt we often want to strike back in order to feel better. If you want to get your ex back, being mean and hurtful will only make your success less likely.

Instead, be on your best behavior. Display a respect for yourself, for your ex, and for your relationship.